Hello, Faoilleach, and welcome to Final Fantasy XIV!
You and I played on opposite ends of the World of Warcraft spectrum. I was on Scarlet Crusade, a RP-PvE server. Mal'Ganis is one of the original PvP servers, right? Yikes, you're a braver soul than I! I can see how it earned its nickname LOL.
You've definitely come to the right place! Balmung is a very friendly server, and I'd like to think our group is, as well.
Send a tell to me (Rowyne Moonsong), Eluri Olde, or Darksage Prime and we'll see about getting you an invite!